We were created to care wholeheartedly, honestly, and sincerely. If we use false flattery we are deceiving and sinful. If we act nice to cover up fear, anger, and other forms of discomfort we are still practicing deception. All deception is sinful. We ought to be very careful what we say, but even more careful how we think and respond toward temptation to control. The greatest commandment is to love God and God wants that love to be wholeheartedly, honest, and sincere.

Job 33:3 My words come from an upright heart; my lips sincerely speak what I know.
Daniel 11:34 When they fall, they will receive a little help, and many who are not sincere will join them.
Luke 20:20 Keeping a close watch on him, they sent spies, who pretended to be sincere. They hoped to catch Jesus in something he said, so that they might hand him over to the power and authority of the governor.
Acts 2:46 Every day they continued to meet together in the temple courts. They broke bread in their homes and ate together with glad and sincere hearts,
Romans 12:9 Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good.
2 Corinthians 6:6 in purity, understanding, patience and kindness; in the Holy Spirit and in sincere love;
2 Corinthians 11:3 But I am afraid that just as Eve was deceived by the serpent’s cunning, your minds may somehow be led astray from your sincere and pure devotion to Christ.
Philippians 1:17 The former preach Christ out of selfish ambition, not sincerely, supposing that they can stir up trouble for me while I am in chains.
1 Timothy 1:5 The goal of this command is love, which comes from a pure heart and a good conscience and a sincere faith.
1 Timothy 3:8 In the same way, deacons are to be worthy of respect, sincere, not indulging in much wine, and not pursuing dishonest gain.
2 Timothy 1:5 I am reminded of your sincere faith, which first lived in your grandmother Lois and in your mother Eunice and, I am persuaded, now lives in you also.
Hebrews 10:22 let us draw near to God with a sincere heart and with the full assurance that faith brings, having our hearts sprinkled to cleanse us from a guilty conscience and having our bodies washed with pure water.
James 3:17 But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere.
1 Peter 1:22 Now that you have purified yourselves by obeying the truth so that you have sincere love for each other, love one another deeply, from the heart.

Matthew 6:1 “Be careful not to practice your righteousness in front of others to be seen by them. If you do, you will have no reward from your Father in heaven.

​Compassion and caring in order for it to really mean compassion and caring has to be honest and sincere. Giving to the poor or helping someone in need is an outward activity. It may be out of compassion and it may not. Let's review some scripture.

John 10:12-14
12 The hired hand is not the shepherd and does not own the sheep. So when he sees the wolf coming, he abandons the sheep and runs away. Then the wolf attacks the flock and scatters it. 13 The man runs away because he is a hired hand and cares nothing for the sheep. 14 “I am the good shepherd; I know my sheep and my sheep know me—

There are some who are hired to take care of others who are more concerned with financial security then God's love. Unfortunately for both the caregiver and the those receiving care it will be a spiritually limited experience. When a better paying job comes around or the business fails the hired person leaves. This is how the world works, but not God. How can anyone existing by such motivations inspire others to do the contrary? This is the act of a pharisee which we were warned about.

1 Timothy 6:20 Timothy, guard what has been entrusted to your care. Turn away from godless chatter and the opposing ideas of what is falsely called knowledge,

We ought to give our attention to God instead of the wisdom of the world. We ought to work together sacrificially to speak the truth and follow righteousness. It is our own hearts which we are to watch, guard, correct, and make right with God otherwise we may be harmed with resentment, blame, and faultfinding. Yet, when our hearts are at peace in love we can rebuke others gently.

Luke 10:34 He went to him and bandaged his wounds, pouring on oil and wine. Then he put the man on his own donkey, brought him to an inn and took care of him.

John 21:16 Again Jesus said, “Simon son of John, do you love me?” He answered, “Yes, Lord, you know that I love you.” Jesus said, “Take care of my sheep.”
Romans 12:17 Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone.
1 Corinthians 8:9 Be careful, however, that the exercise of your rights does not become a stumbling block to the weak.
Ephesians 5:29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church—
1 Thessalonians 2:8 so we cared for you. Because we loved you so much, we were delighted to share with you not only the gospel of God but our lives as well.
1 Peter 5:7 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.

​This worst pain we may ever experience could be loneliness and emptiness. In forgiveness we may break down a barrier preventing compassion and move in the direction of healing.