We learn to give up and stop trying. It takes strong evidence through relearning to convince ourselves

to act contrary to our beliefs. Our unbelief can affect our faith.

Groupthink is a psychological phenomenon that occurs within a group of people in which the desire for harmony or conformity in the group results in an irrational or dysfunctional decision-making outcome. Group members try to minimize conflict and reach a consensus decision without critical evaluation of alternative viewpoints by actively suppressing dissenting viewpoints, and by isolating themselves from outside influences. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Groupthink 

Nobody's Perfect! But couldn't we be better?


Matthew 13:58 Now He did not do many mighty works there because of their unbelief.
Mark 9:24 Immediately the father of the child cried out and said with tears, “Lord, I believe; help my unbelief!”
Romans 3:3 For what if some did not believe? Will their unbelief make the faithfulness of God without effect?
Romans 11:20 Well said. Because of unbelief they were broken off, and you stand by faith. Do not be haughty, but fear.
Romans 11:23 And they also, if they do not continue in unbelief, will be grafted in, for God is able to graft them in again.
Hebrews 3:19 So we see that they could not enter in because of unbelief.

It is necessary for us to realize our handicaps, mental weaknesses, and limits to open our minds more to what we do not understand. We must increasingly, despite any disbelieving thought, strengthen our minds and hearts with God's character. Trusting less of what we see and more of God's character that is unseen, in thought, heart, attitude, and deed.

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"We can't be perfect!"

This statement justifies stagnation and lack of effort. It implies the task at hand is too great to achieve, so why try. It is a lie. We can be perfect in love, compassion, truth, mercy, forgiveness, and patience. When someone loves another, who says, "you are doing it wrong, let me show you how to do it." Either we are sincere and truthful, giving it our all, or we are not. Being perfect with God is simply giving ourselves over completely to God as servants of God. We can be perfect, with God.

Matthew 5:48 Therefore you shall be perfect, just as your Father in heaven is perfect. NKJV

Deuteronomy 32:4 He is the Rock, His work is perfect; For all His ways are justice, A God of truth and without injustice; Righteous and upright is He. NKJV

Psalm 18:32 It is God who arms me with strength, And makes my way perfect. NKJV

2 Corinthians 7:1 Therefore, having these promises, beloved, let us cleanse ourselves from all filthiness of the flesh and spirit, perfecting holiness in the fear of God. NKJV

Colossians 3:14 But above all these things put on love, which is the bond of perfection. NKJV

We ought to be seeking with all effort, strength, and diligence God's perfect ways.

Matthew 19:26 But Jesus looked at them and said to them, “With men this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.” NKJV

When we focus on the perfect goal of purity, righteousness, truth, love, and peace the idea of obtaining that goal can seem impossible due to our faith, belief, and understanding. If we present the goal as 'never lying' or 'Always truthful,' we might just throw our hands up and surrender due to our limitations. However, if the goal was presented in a more achievable manner, to be more truthful and learn its spiritual significance, then growing toward what is perfect becomes more achievable and acceptable. So the solution is to set simple achievable goals that guide us more into God's goodness. As we begin making changes to accomplish achievable goals faith can grow and multiply. As we grow in God's Grace, Grace will grow us more. Once we take an action toward God and contrary to our unbelief, we begin to gather evidence which we can use to prove our unbelief wrong, weaken its control over us, while growing in faith with God. New action is key.

​Colossians 4:12 Epaphras, who is one of you, a bondservant of Christ, greets you, always laboring fervently for you in prayers, that you may stand perfect and complete in all the will of God.​ NKJV

1 Thessalonians 3:10 night and day praying exceedingly that we may see your face and perfect what is lacking in your faith? NKJV

Hebrews 2:10 For it was fitting for Him, for whom are all things and by whom are all things, in bringing many sons to glory, to make the captain of their salvation perfect through sufferings. NKJV

James 1:4 But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfectand complete, lacking nothing. NKJV

1 Peter 5:10 But may the God of all grace, who called us to His eternal glory by Christ Jesus, after you have suffered a while, perfect, establish, strengthen, and settle you. NKJV

1 John 2:5 But whoever keeps His word, truly the love of God is perfected in him. By this we know that we are in Him. NKJV


As we take action contrary to our unbelief it can feel awkward. Such action goes against not only our unbelief, but often times unbelief of others around us, and sometimes even our spiritual teachers, pastors, etc. Everyone sins, even leaders sin.

(True leadership is of the Spirit, those who practice what they preach and speak from their heart out of their experience. Our leaders ought to be teaching how they are correcting their sinful ways through God reliance.)

1 John 1:10 If we say that we have not sinned, we make Him a liar, and His word is not in us. NKJV

(According to scripture, those who claim their sin is no more are liars.)

In order to grow with God's grace, goodness, and righteousness we ought to increasingly understand what God's Righteousness is and how to move in that direction. Our way of doing things based upon our limited understanding, this includes leadership, ought to be modified to better align with God's will, path, precepts, and principles. We can and ought to progress with God. Following, obeying, relying, depending, trusting, and seeking are action words.

Philippians 1:25 And being confident of this, I know that I shall remain and continue with you all for your progress and joy of faith, NKJV (progress) 
1 Timothy 4:15 Meditate on these things; give yourself entirely to them, that your progress may be evident to all. NKJV (entirely to them)
Hebrews 6:1 [ The Peril of Not Progressing ] Therefore, leaving the discussion of the elementary principles of Christ, let us go on to perfection, not laying again the foundation of repentance from dead works and of faith toward God, NKJV (go on to perfection)

We ought to be moving toward progression. The 'dead works' in the above verse has to do with 'going through the motions' or 'acting the part' without heart, sincerity, and honest effort. Too often action is taken without heart or spirit. At times we might do things; because someone else wants us to, to fit in or be accepted, or because we believe by doing the 'work' we will get something... salvation. It's not the outward activity or physical work that is important, but the inward belief, heart, attitude, faith, and spirit. We ought to do the work to help heal our inward maladjustments with alignment to God's Goodness. We ought to place regular daily attention to our thoughts, how they guide us, and ensure they are aligning more with God. If we are thinking spiritual defeating thoughts and believing them, then we are obeying and following lies. Lies are of the evil one.

Imagine a large front yard landscape that is green and pleasing to the eye, but up close we see weeds mixed in with grass. The weeds are everywhere within the grass. If we spend one day pulling the weeds we might find our hands hurting and our thoughts telling us this is futile. But if each day, we spend ten minutes pulling a few weeds, after a month we will realize we can indeed make a significant difference in the problem. In the places where the weeds used to be we can now plant new seed to grow grass. Soon the grass will grow and the lawn will be healthier and more pleasant. We will be able to look at it appreciating the work done to improve its condition.

Yet this is just an illustration. What we are really talking about is our mind, heart, and soul. God can and will purify our hearts as we submit to do God's will. The weeds we ought to pull from our thoughts are pride, fear, selfishness, resentment, and dishonesty. This website is filled with information teaching how to restructure our thoughts and attitude to align with God and accept God's loving and saving Grace.

Much of our unbelief was not created in a day and nor can it be restored permanently in a day. Yet each day is a very important opportunity. Read this site ten minutes a day, take new action, and see if your belief can improve to better align with God. Isn't that worth trying out?