The selfish pride within us wants us to be in control. Pride keeps us from changing, following, trusting, testing, and learning. Pride tells us we know better and we trust in our own understanding. We trust in ourselves instead of God.
There is arrogant pride of self importance. They think they know best. This type is special in their abilities, or so they think. They are closed minded to others ideas including God. They want to be the manager and control decision. If they can't understand how God works they won't do it. So they don't. To show how special they are they will give the appearance as though they are trusting in God, but will not give in completely as God commands. They will claim to have tried God's way, but really only gave into some action while holding doubt. They blame others.
There is self-pity, those who believe they are beyond help, unworthy, can't be saved. Their position is so special God won't help them. They are so bad they an elite in evil because of what they have done. They are special in their victim position. They refuse to let God change them and be healed. They identify themselves in this pity and hold onto it. They are unwilling to have the peace and love God offers them. They blame themselves.
To humble ourselves we become willing to try new ways realizing that our own knowledge is not enough. There is another way to live that we have not tried. We humble ourselves and give in to a new way of life. This is the rebirth with God, his kingdom, his laws, and his commands.
Nothing changes if nothing changes. We hit bottom when we stop digging. We change when we are made ready to listen and follow a new set of rules from our hearts.
A common theme throughout the bible is:
Deuteronomy 8:14 then your heart will become proud and you will forget the Lord your God, who brought you out of Egypt, out of the land of slavery.
Job 40:12 look at all who are proud and humble them, crush the wicked where they stand.
Psalm 18:39 You armed me with strength for battle; you humbled my adversaries before me.
Psalm 44:9 But now you have rejected and humbled us; you no longer go out with our armies.
Psalm 55:19 God, who is enthroned from of old, who does not change— he will hear them and humble them, because they have no fear of God.
Psalm 107:39 Then their numbers decreased, and they were humbled by oppression, calamity and sorrow;
Isaiah 2:11 The eyes of the arrogant will be humbled and human pride brought low; the Lord alone will be exalted in that day.
Isaiah 5:15 So people will be brought low and everyone humbled, the eyes of the arrogant humbled.
Isaiah 13:11 I will punish the world for its evil, the wicked for their sins. I will put an end to the arrogance of the haughty and will humble the pride of the ruthless.
Isaiah 26:5 He humbles those who dwell on high, he lays the lofty city low; he levels it to the ground and casts it down to the dust.
Jeremiah 44:10 To this day they have not humbled themselves or shown reverence, nor have they followed my law and the decrees I set before you and your ancestors.
Daniel 5:22 “But you, Belshazzar, his son, have not humbled yourself, though you knew all this.
We are to humble ourselves
Daniel 10:12 Then he continued, “Do not be afraid, Daniel. Since the first day that you set your mind to gain understanding and to humble yourself before your God, your words were heard, and I have come in response to them.
1 Kings 21:29 “Have you noticed how Ahab has humbled himself before me? Because he has humbled himself, I will not bring this disaster in his day, but I will bring it on his house in the days of his son.”
2 Kings 22:19 Because your heart was responsive and you humbled yourself before the Lord when you heard what I have spoken against this place and its people—that they would become a curse and be laid waste—and because you tore your robes and wept in my presence, I also have heard you, declares the Lord.
2 Chronicles 7:14 if my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, and I will forgive their sin and will heal their land.
2 Chronicles 12:7 When the Lord saw that they humbled themselves, this word of the Lord came to Shemaiah: “Since they have humbled themselves, I will not destroy them but will soon give them deliverance. My wrath will not be poured out on Jerusalem through Shishak.
2 Chronicles 12:12 Because Rehoboam humbled himself, the Lord’s anger turned from him, and he was not totally destroyed. Indeed, there was some good in Judah.
Micah 6:8 He has shown you, O mortal, what is good. And what does the Lord require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God.
Zephaniah 2:3 Seek the Lord, all you humble of the land, you who do what he commands. Seek righteousness, seek humility; perhaps you will be sheltered on the day of the Lord’s anger.
Zephaniah 3:12 But I will leave within you the meek and humble. The remnant of Israel will trust in the name of the Lord.
Matthew 11:29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.
Matthew 23:12 For those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted.
1 Peter 3:8 Finally, all of you, be like-minded, be sympathetic, love one another, be compassionate and humble.
1 Peter 5:5 All of you, clothe yourselves with humility toward one another, because, “God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.”
1 Peter 5:6 Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time.
Luke 1:52 He has brought down rulers from their thrones but has lifted up the humble.
Luke 14:11 For all those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted.”
Luke 18:14 “I tell you that this man, rather than the other, went home justified before God. For all those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted.”
Galatians 5:13 You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh; rather, serve one another humbly in love.
Ephesians 4:2 Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.
Philippians 2:8 And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to death— even death on a cross!
James 1:21 Therefore, get rid of all moral filth and the evil that is so prevalent and humbly accept the word planted in you, which can save you.
James 4:6 But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says: “God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.”
James 4:10 Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up.
Psalm 18:27 You save the humble but bring low those whose eyes are haughty.
Psalm 25:9 He guides the humble in what is right and teaches them his way.
Psalm 40:4 Blessed is the one who trusts in the Lord, who does not look to the proud, to those who turn aside to false gods.
Psalm 147:6 The Lord sustains the humble but casts the wicked to the ground.
Psalm 149:4 For the Lord takes delight in his people; he crowns the humble with victory.
Proverbs 3:34 He mocks proud mockers but shows favor to the humble and oppressed.
Isaiah 29:19 Once more the humble will rejoice in the Lord; the needy will rejoice in the Holy One of Israel.
Isaiah 57:15 For this is what the high and exalted One says— he who lives forever, whose name is holy: “I live in a high and holy place, but also with the one who is contrite and lowly in spirit, to revive the spirit of the lowly and to revive the heart of the contrite.